friends…

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calls, friends, loneliness, reciprocation, relationships

in real life i do not have any friends. except my wife. some 10-12 years ago i was told that if i was always the one calling and initiating social stuff, the relationship(s) were imbalanced and unequal. so i stopped calling the few friends i had, to give them a chance to reciprocate. they never did. even people who claimed i was part of their family, said they loved me, never called me once in those 10-12 years. the only person who ever gave me any explanation was the one i had been friends with the longest – “you are too much”, he said.

too much what?

i don’t know, and i am not likely to ever know. yes, i am bitter, and i am lonely. and confused.

apart from the home assistance team that comes around twice a week to help me clean and a paid personal contact whom i meet once a month i have no social connections in real life.

super power

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attitudes, disability, neurotypical attitudes, super power

one of the things that annoys me about being neurodifferent is the general attitude people  (neurotypicals) have about neurodifferents. like it is a DISABILITY, something i SUFFER from.

it is a disability only because society is not built to accept neurodifferents.

i suffer, not from my adhd and my as, but from neurotypicals’ ignorance and arrogance. and from neurotypical society’s demand that all people function the same.

when i am around other neurodifferents i do not have any problems fitting in – in my corner of society my neurodifference is a blessing, a super power that lets me contribute on equal terms with everyone else.

in my corner of society everyone is aware that we are all different from each other, and that this is a strength, not a weakness, and that we are all precious and appreciated because our differences.